For some children a simple go to your room or even just a positive reinforcement works change the subject talk about how they have on character shoes and that will do most children will simply move one so why isn’t it the same for children with trauma? How do I discipline a child with trauma?
Remember trauma is damage to the brain so you are not able to process things like someone who has experience minor or no trauma at all.
So How do you discipline your child with trauma?
Validate their feelings let them know you are there for them that you care about how they feel and listen to them
Have a clear understanding of what the consequences will be for certain behaviors
Have a list of unwanted behaviors and work with those first start with 5 of the behaviors that you would like to see changed or at least happening less frequent.
Don’t give double consequences just one per behavior Give a consequence for that behavior and follow through. Don’t start off with if you don’t clean your room you don’t get to watch television and then switch to since you did not clean your room you don’t get any ice cream that is considered double consequences and will not help
Remember that we are disciplining the behavior not the child make that clear “Mommy did not like when you threw your clothes that behavior is not okay” try not to say “stop throwing your clothes” set clear boundaries “Mommy expects you to be gentle with your clothes if you would like to throw you may go outside and throw a ball.
Reward for positive behaviors depending on your child’s age reward charts or sticker charts are great visual cues and child can track their progress. Subscribe for behavior charts delivered right to your inbox.
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